You kept the newsletter after the breakup. She lost you but we got you. Welcome!!
Andddd…single, financially responsible, tips well, reads Mrs. Dow Jones? Readers, if you are in NYC you have all the information you need. Send me a message and I'll connect lol. I am not a matchmaker, but I am not NOT a matchmaker. Moving on.
Let's talk about your money bc this is a real problem, and you deserve real answers.
Dating in NYC is genuinely expensive. A first date dinner in this city is $80 before drinks. Add two cocktails each, an Uber, and the flowers you bought in a panic, and you're at $250 before you even know if you like this person. That's not irresponsible. That's just New York.
But here's the fix: stop taking first dates to dinner. Drinks at a casual bar, $30 max, 45 minutes, you get a vibe check without spending your grocery budget. If it goes well you can always suggest dinner next time. If it doesn't, you're out $30 and an hour. totally fine.
Set a monthly dating budget. Not per date. Per month. $200 to $400 is reasonable for someone in your position. First dates come out of the low end. Someone you actually like gets the nicer version. When the budget runs out, the activities get more creative, which honestly makes for better dates anyway.
And lastly, creativity beats expensive every time. The High Line. A farmers' market. Cooking something together. A comedy show at a small venue. A man who plans something thoughtful will always land better than a man who just throws money at a Resy reservation. The right person will notice the difference.
You're not doing anything wrong. You just needed a framework. Now you have one.
Good luck out there. NYC is hard, but you've got good instincts and great taste in newsletters.
You kept the newsletter after the breakup. She lost you but we got you. Welcome!!
Andddd…single, financially responsible, tips well, reads Mrs. Dow Jones? Readers, if you are in NYC you have all the information you need. Send me a message and I'll connect lol. I am not a matchmaker, but I am not NOT a matchmaker. Moving on.
Let's talk about your money bc this is a real problem, and you deserve real answers.
Dating in NYC is genuinely expensive. A first date dinner in this city is $80 before drinks. Add two cocktails each, an Uber, and the flowers you bought in a panic, and you're at $250 before you even know if you like this person. That's not irresponsible. That's just New York.
But here's the fix: stop taking first dates to dinner. Drinks at a casual bar, $30 max, 45 minutes, you get a vibe check without spending your grocery budget. If it goes well you can always suggest dinner next time. If it doesn't, you're out $30 and an hour. totally fine.
Set a monthly dating budget. Not per date. Per month. $200 to $400 is reasonable for someone in your position. First dates come out of the low end. Someone you actually like gets the nicer version. When the budget runs out, the activities get more creative, which honestly makes for better dates anyway.
And lastly, creativity beats expensive every time. The High Line. A farmers' market. Cooking something together. A comedy show at a small venue. A man who plans something thoughtful will always land better than a man who just throws money at a Resy reservation. The right person will notice the difference.
You're not doing anything wrong. You just needed a framework. Now you have one.
Good luck out there. NYC is hard, but you've got good instincts and great taste in newsletters.